As I write this, I am sitting across from a dear trusted mama friend who is not only raising a delicious 18-month-old daughter, she also runs a successful resume writing business (and by successful, I mean, her work was ranked top 25 in the nation). Until recently, I had a very hard time believing in the work-life balance, especially as a new mom, because it was something I wanted no part of. Well, like many women in today’s society – I have no choice. As my days of stay-at-home-mom life are running out, I realized I’ve had to change my perspective on returning to work – and FAST.
Back to my friend I mentioned earlier… She has found the ultimate balance between mom life and working. I’m sure she’d tell you otherwise – but when I speak to her at any point in the day, she has already managed to hit the gym, complete another resume, pump out some breast milk and fit a conference call or two into her day. With each passing month of her daughters life, she becomes more successful and accomplished in all areas of her life. Her daughter will NO DOUBT grow up proud of her hard-working, beautiful mama, and I have decided once and for all, I need my daughter to feel the same way.
Beyonce posed the question, just a few years back – Who run the world? Girls. We are now living in a society that is moving more and more towards female equality in the workplace (I hope), and just like I overheard my husband whispering to our 6-month old daughter over the baby monitor a few nights ago, we may see a female President in the White House next year. Badass women are the hottest thing since trophy wives right now; badass, multitasking, hard-working women. I’ve decided I’d like to join this club.
And why shouldn’t I? I’ve been working hard for more than fifteen years. I have put so much time, energy, sweat and tears into my teaching career. I have had so many amazing teachable moments, made countless connections with students and their families, and have heard “you changed my life” enough times to make me not want to stop now.
I had a thought last week, after speaking to the mother of a former student. She mentioned how happy she was for the fact that her son had me as a teacher and that she knew I’d be “that teacher” that her son would always remember. I instantly imagined myself years down the road, having lunch with my daughter, and this student walking over to our table, all grown up, and telling my daughter how her mother changed his life and made him love learning. Imagine the impact this would have on my daughter. How could this not make her proud?
So I’m getting ready to go back to work next month. I am starting to plan out my new classroom setup. I am working really hard to wrap my head around the fact that after 6 blissful months of doing nothing but being a mommy, I have to hand my daughter off to a daycare to take my place between the hours of 8 and 4. I know that my daughter will be just fine with this drastic change of events – she’s great like that.
I am the one who will cry on her first day (and likely for a few weeks thereafter).
I am the one who will continue working towards being the best mom and wife I can be while enriching the lives of my students in the best way I know how. I am the one who will continue working towards becoming a doula and I am also the one who will continue helping high school students write their college admissions essays on the side. I am the one who, much to my own shock, will strive to multitask like so many badass women before me. I am the one who has finally wrapped her head around this new attitude. I am the one who will swallow it every morning like my own personal pill of determination and motivation. But, Bella, my sweet little Bella, is the one I’ll do it for.
Because all I wish for her to say one day is, “My mom is awesome, and
I’m so proud of her.”
This post is dedicated, first and foremost, to my daughter. Next is a list of some “badass mommies” I’ve met along the way, and ones I do not know personally, but who have inspired me in so many ways…
– My own mama, Margie – who totally ROCKED IT as a single mom.
– The hardworking resume writing Mama I mentioned up top, Emily Kapit
(visit her at http://www.refreshyourstep.com )
– The always happy, always overworked Patty Villazon, my aunt and a full time working mom of two babies.
– The beautiful and well-dressed, Jenny Berger, a very dear friend, talented wardrobe stylist, and mama to a delicious and chunky 7 month old boy.
(visit her at http://www.wearitwell.com )
– To my mother-in-law, Robyn, for working her butt off and raising my amazing husband (and two other children to boot).
– To Beyonce, for continuing to SLAY, at all times (no other justification is necessary on this one).
– To Rachel Hollis, who I follow religiously on instagram as MsRachelHollis, who became famous for rocking a bikini with zero stretch-mark shame a few months back. She doesn’t know me, but her smile, positivity, and zero-body shame attitude has inspired me for months.
AND TO ALL OF MY MAMA FRIENDS WHO CONTINUE BUSTING THEIR BEAUTIFUL BUTTS FOR THEIR FAMILIES!